Please read When the Bible Blows Your Mind, by John Piper, at One Place.
Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and unfathomable His ways!
For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your ways And My thoughts than your thoughts.
And not only this, but there was Rebekah also, when she had conceived twins by one man, our father Isaac; for though the twins were not yet born and had not done anything good or bad, so that God's purpose according to His choice would stand, not because of works but because of Him who calls, it was said to her, "THE OLDER WILL SERVE THE YOUNGER. "
So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy.
...but to those who are selfishly ambitious and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, wrath and indignation.
When He approached Jerusalem, He saw the city and wept over it, saying, "If you had known in this day, even you, the things which make for peace! But now they have been hidden from your eyes.
At that very time He rejoiced greatly in the Holy Spirit, and said, "I praise You, O Father, Lord of heaven and earth, that You have hidden these things from the wise and intelligent and have revealed them to infants. Yes, Father, for this way was well-pleasing in Your sight.
When He went ashore, He saw a large crowd, and felt compassion for them and healed their sick.
The LORD said to him, "Who has made man's mouth? Or who makes him mute or deaf, or seeing or blind? Is it not I, the LORD?"
The LORD kills and makes alive; He brings down to Sheol and raises up.
1 Samuel 2:6
So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience;
1) Don't cancel one truth in the Bible because it feels out of sync with another.
2) Don't draw emotional or behavioral implications from God's sovereignty that contradict faith, compassion, accountability, prayer, evangelism, or hard work. On the contrary, consider Colossians 3:12 and set your unspeakably happy condition as "chosen, holy and loved" produce "compassion, kindness, humility and meekness." "